Seeling told me to go watch this utube video of the last lecture of a prof from carnegie mellon uni. Prof Randy pausch. The description of the video reads as follows:

andy Pausch set the tone early on yesterday at his farewell lecture at Carnegie Mellon University.

“If I don’t seem as depressed or morose as I should be, sorry to disappoint you,” said Dr. Pausch.

It is probably the last public speech Dr. Pausch will give anywhere. The 46-year-old computer science professor and father of three preschoolers has incurable pancreatic cancer. Doctors have given him months to live.

Yet, standing at the podium in McConomy Auditorium on the campus yesterday, Randy Pausch did not focus on impending death. Instead, he celebrated the chance he had been given to live the life he always had dreamed of.
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He said the following which makes a whole lot of sense:

Brick walls are there for a reason – they let us prove how badly we want things.
Brick Walls are there for a reason – There are there to stop the pp who do not want it badly enough.
If you are screwing up and nobody cares to tell you, you’re in trouble. Your critics actually love you.
Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you want.
Wait long enough and pp will surprise and impress you.